make believe

I'm happy, i'm sad, i'm sick, i'm not i'm glad, i'm angry, i'm hungry,i'm full, i'm late, i'm engaged i'm insanely in love this is how it works! For some reason we find ourselves compelled to lie compelled to give a face compelled to feel the way people expect us to. Frankly, it is more comfortable but, it is still a lie becasue essentially that is not how we feel. How awkward though would it be, if you suddenly looked happy while you perhaps just lost a dear pet? People dictate your emotions because we're for some reason addicted to approval it is a way to fit in for us. On a first date people naturally expect butterflies in your stomach, if you do not for whatever reason mention it they will dig it out of you but, to fit in you will suggest that you do have butterflies. If a guy is super cute everyone will expect you to be glad you found him but thinking about it you reaslise that heeyyyy.... I dont like his conversation skill or no skill at all and so, because he is cute you need to endure time with him until the day he "dumps you" by then you would have lost,possibly, chances of being with someone you actually like and whose company you enjoy. That is when you realise underneath the layers and layers of smiles you are actually just bored and unhappy.

So, why do we make believe? I make believe because I love the feeling of all the other people being evnious of me, because I believe my real life is inadequate to be impressive. I believe people are drawn to variety, to uniqueness. When writers and scholars say we're all unique we never believe that because we know it is a way to get us feeling better about ourselves, but seriously what is so cool about "unique" if everyone is it? So out of the uniquness of our heads we make a larger than life super happy super unique being that is able to cover our mistakes and make us better than the rest of this "unique race". So yes inadequacy makes us feel as though we need to make believe because make believe makes us feel better about ourselves. Someone once said, " Well i'm big boned not obese." The response became, "Have you ever seen a big skeleton?" With make believe comes another weird one, denial. We weant to figure out a way to fit in with status quo but we do not want to work like all the other people. We need for people to approve of us, our relationshps and our way of leading our own lives, you constantly defend yourself about the things you get up to. Joyce Meyer came up with a name for it
"approval addiction" check it out from some bookstores like Borders. How does our need to make believe relate to being addicted to approval of people you possibly do not know, care about or even see on the regular? It is that you can not make believe unless you need approval or extreme attention and or recognition.

Now seriously, is it human nature to make believe? Perhaps not because it is wrong to lie from culture to culture religion to religion so it still remains why do we make believe? why is it so important for us to do it and how can I as an individual stop it or slow it down?