Family Ties

Isn't it simply sensational when you grow up the amount of family ties u seem to cut? i mean i find myself having to pick and choose whom i talk to on the regular and whom i decide was never really a friend. Perhaps what anyone should remember no matter how old they get is that the whole point there is a saying blood is thicker than water is precisely because you cannot separate blood. Its like mixing sugar in a bag with sugar in a plastic container, you cannot later should you decide, separate it.
however, coming from a family of by, now tens and tens of cousins from my maternal and paternal side i'm bound to neglect atleast a few people. how then do you break it to a person that you have had too many children i can't help with your rent, you have been to careless i can't foot your medical bill or you are too much of a brat i can't hire you in my upscale restaurant? i mean i can't imagine the pain that would ravage my inside should i be, whether with intent or not, feel belittled, ignored or given attitude by my own blood.
The politics of family ties have such a history it is ridiculous! at one point or the other you have to deal with them,(your cousin being a brat brought to your house for the holidays, plays all day and wets the bed, you can't be mean because it will go back to your aunt which will then turn into a falling out with your parent) and deal we do. it often seems so ridiculous to us, (referring to some Africans) that a person who once lived in a mansion is now homeless, as we see all this on American daytime telly we say "Don't these people have friends, or relatives,or parents?"
Writing this now i wonder if i can hold on to all my ties and how long. I wouldn't want to be without a place to live when my aunt or uncle have mansions,obviously, and i would'nt want my cousin to suffer the same fate!So as of now, i'm completely without ground as to how the Family Ties fade,are broken or cut off. so now i'll let nature run it's willing cause.
i'm clentching my teeth and hoping for the best!!