found

So you found love, what's next! it's not great secret that all of us what no know the secret of how love is kept once found. it's also a step that we all forget until the time comes when  it is a necessity to know what's next. it's a matter of commitment, friendship, trust, passion and a lasting reliance. how does one know though, how to keep it alive when the passion has been ignited and the need for the other seems to burn too bright that there is no end in sight? can one plan for how to keep the love/relationship alive once it has been established? do we even consider (truly) the future when we get into relationship? all this considered how would one go about it? does my planning for te future with him simply mean I'm trying to piece together unnaturally something that should simply be? or have I truly learnt what a true union means?
is it not hard to wonder while in his arms what ten years would be like with him? wouldn't it be better if we could simply live in the moment? today I have no great wisdom to patch this up, instead, I will just share what think should be the case when one has found. I believe that a woman is at liberty to choose where she goes, that it is her that decides how a man will treat her, she has to be clear from the very beginning of what she wants. if it is not fulfilled then, when the man still claims great passion, it will never be done. a woman decides the course of the relationship from the way she presents herself to the relationship. a woman who enjoys outdoors and  an active lifestyle needs to be clear from the on set what she is about so that the mate who picks her knows what he is getting into. just as a woman who enjoys walks and a generally quiet life has to be clear from the onset.
Somehow though, when we found the one who makes our lives feel filfilled we somehow turn into a version of the man with whom we find ourselves, we lose our being into them and lose identity as a result. all will say is, now you found him, attracted with your natural being of unaffected laugh and quick feminine walk . why are you hiding your true self in his true self? take charge when you found him, not aggresion just be true to yourself, when you found him.